3 Tips To Effortlessly Harness The Power of Words
Whoever came up with the old adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” was obviously deaf!
Words are so powerful that they have the ability to crush a heart or to heal it. They can shame a soul or liberate it and can shatter dreams or inspire them.
I grew up with an intimate understanding of the detrimental effects of volatile words; specifically, during arguments. I've personally seen and felt how the words a person chooses to use can crush a person's spirit. It has impacted me to the point where I've become so obsessed with this topic that any relationship resembling said understanding is a deal-breaker for me.
Never, ever, ever underestimate the power your words have. Words are powerful, painful, awful, and amazing tools. They can heal a broken soul and start a revolution.
HERE ARE 3 QUICK TIPS TO EFFORTLESSLY HARNESS YOUR POWER OF WORDS
1. IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, SAY NOTHING AT ALL
When I first met my husband back in July 2011, I shared my thought on this topic -the power of words. I actually laid this requirement out on our first date as it's my "#1 rule". The way I look at it is if he's unwilling to agree to this dandy-of-a-requirement of mine, and get on board from date #1, then there's really no point in perusing date #2. With us going strong for 7 years now, I think we all know that he agreed and because of this, we both have healthy arguments/discussions.
My rule, "Under no circumstance is it ever acceptable to yell, scream, name-call, or use profanity when arguing -either towards or at each other." There are an abundance of ways for us to communicate our thoughts without turning our arguments into a 'whom can hurt whom the most' contest.
When we use volatile language to communicate, we are doing so to specifically hurt the other person. Our focus then side-tracks off topic and is directed towards the hurtful words being said. Pointless. If you love and care about someone, why would you ever want to use your words as a tool to hurt them? To me, personally, it makes no sense.
We are all creative beings and can find creative ways to rephrase hurtful words into more productive communication. This rule goes for all relationships and is not limited to my romantic relationship.
2. BE MINDFUL OF YOUR INFLUENCE
When articulated and said in the right way, words have the power to completely change our lives. This is especially important for those who hold roles such as mentor, leader, role model, or seen as an authority figure --parent, teacher, mentor, lover, and hell... adult!-- anything you say has the power to be believed by your hearer. The words you speak can be taken on as someone else's TRUTH. Speak thoughtfully.
The words you use, whether verbally or in writing, influence how others perceive both you and themselves. They can either build or destroy relationships.
They are creating our reality.
Though often we’re not conscious of the words we speak, read, and expose ourselves to -they're extremely powerful tools that can raise our energy and improve our lives . Even the words spoken by others can easily affect our personal vibration. Spend a few minutes with a chronic complainer and you’ll feel your energy take a quick nose-dive.
Words have great power, so choose them (and your friends) wisely!
3. RESPONDING RATHER THAN REACTING
The difference? To react is to speak or blurt aloud without giving any thought to what you're saying. To respond implies conscious thought. In responding, we make a choice. We control of our words, rather than letting our words control us.
We have the ability to consciously choose how we respond to any situation. Said best by my favorite author Stephen Covey, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.”
Let‘s Inspire Positive Change & Unleash The Power of Words. Say something worth saying. Rather than giving into the temptation of fighting back and responding to an angry voice by raising your own, pause for a moment and reflect on the desired meaning you are wishing to communicate. It's not a 'whom can hurt whom the most' contest.
Instead, use your words for something else. Something powerful, something subversive.
You can change lives with your words, whether it's opening minds, inspiring a nation, changing the world, or influencing a child. Words have power. Words are power. Words can be your super power --so handle them carefully.
Your words can scar a person at their core... or it could mend a broken soul.