3 NLP Tips That Will Transform Your Life
WHAT IS NLP?
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an incredibly powerful approach to communication and personal development. Learning NLP techniques provides you with greater control over your ability to be at your best more often. You will be able to effectively manage your thoughts and feelings no matter what is happening in your environment!
NLP changes the way we view ourselves and the world around us, modifying our unknown (subconscious) routines and viewpoints that are holding us back -Creating problems like insomnia, stress, anxiety, depression, weight gain and a host of physical and psychological problems.
As an NLP Coach specializing in BOLD transitions, I coach and lead individuals who DARE to be their ideal and authentic self.
If your life is not the way you want it – chances are that NLP can bring your internal, subconscious model of the world into alignment, allowing you to effortlessly and permanently achieve your goals and bring health, happiness and success.
With that being said, here are...
3 NLP Techniques You Can Use At Home
It’s extremely easy to have a knee-jerk negative reaction and then feel stressed, angry or sad as a result—for example, think about an office dispute, a disagreement with your partner, or a friend who shows up late for every meeting. This NLP technique helps to diffuse these negative feelings in such situations, restoring objectivity.
- Identify the emotion (EX: fear, rage, discomfort, dislike of a situation) that you want to get rid of.
- Imagine yourself encountering the entire experience from an observer’s perspective.
- Now, play this “mental movie” backwards, then fast forward the movie before playing it backwards yet again.
- Add a funny soundtrack as you play it backwards 3-4 more times -circus music is always entertaining.
- Play with the speed of your "mental movie" as well! Speed it up, slow it down.
- Great! Now, let's test it! imagine the scenario as if it were presently happening. You'll more than likely chuckle as you find that the negative feelings have disappeared, changed, or at least reduced.
If you find that you'd like a greater impact, simply repeat the exercise many times as needed.
02. CONTENT RE-FRAMING
Use this technique when you feel powerless or angry as it helps to empower you by changing the meaning of the experience. For example, say that your relationship ends—that seems awful, but if you allow yourself to experience it from different perspectives, you will re-frame its meaning.
Ask yourself "What do I have to gain by this experience?" Now bullet point your answers. I highly suggest writing down the first thing that comes to your mind as this space is the most authentic & truthful. Such as-
- "I'm now open to let in relationships that are more in-line with my needs."
- "I have the freedom to indulge in more self-care practices."
- "I have learned valuable life lessons on what is and what is not acceptable going forward."
- "We clearly are not meant to be together which frees me to be available for a soulmate."
This is an example of re-framing a situation—taking the focus off the negative elements and onto more beneficial elements. In expected situations, it’s natural to panic or focus on fear, but this just leads to more problems. In contrast, shifting your focus as described will help you to clear your head and make responsible, level-headed decisions.
03. ESTABLISHING RAPPORT
This is an easy set of NLP techniques, but has the power to help you get along with virtually anyone. There are an abundance of ways to build rapport—one of the most effective involves following a person’s breathing pattern, but subtly mirroring their body language.
- Slowly & subtly crossing your legs in the same direction, or mirroring your posture to theirs rather than instantly scratching your nose the moment that someone else does.
A less well-known but equally potent rapport technique involves listening to people and picking up whether their main sensory perception is kinesthetic, visual or auditory prior to employing the same perception yourself. The key here is to pick up on their predominant sensory. There may be more than one.
- AUDITORY clues can be perceived in phrases like “I hear what your saying”, “Did you hear about...?” and “I’m listening.”
- VISUAL perceptions are suggested by words and phrases such as “I see what you mean” and “I should have seen it coming.”
- KINESTHETIC perception is often expressed by phrases like “I feel ya”, "I get a good vibe about her", and “I have a good feeling about this.”
Whether or not you were able to follow along with understanding what NLP is, you can still successfully implement these techniques.